Cravings, backaches, a big belly and sore breasts—you expect most of these things when you’re pregnant. Vaginal bleeding, little sleep, and mesh underwear—you expect most of these things after giving birth. But what were you not expecting?
When you’re pregnant you spend a lot of time researching every stage of your pregnancy and what labor will be like. But what about life postpartum? What about the mom’s health after birth?
“I went in completely unprepared for what was about to hit me, and it was rough. I did have a couple of friends who let me in on some insider secrets about postpartum, but I still felt like I was flying blind for the most part,” wrote Lauren Hartmann, mommy blogger and writer.
Here are 5 things you may not be expecting postpartum:
Yeah, this happens. Your mom, aunt, cousin or friend may have joked about peeing themselves a little when they laugh, cough, sneeze or workout after giving birth, but it’s real.
1 in 3 women experience urinary incontinence (bladder leakage). And, guess what? This includes women who haven’t even given birth! Also, it includes celebrities like Shania Twain, who recently shared she’s leaked while performing on stage.
“I stood up from my chair to get up and sing. I peed myself, and the puddle, I just knocked my glass of water over,” Shania Twain revealed on What Happens Live With Andy Cohen.
Here’s the thing about urine leakage: it doesn’t have to be permanent.
You don’t have to cross your legs every time you sneeze or stuff pads into your purse every time you leave the house. There are many options for treating urinary incontinence, like surgery, pills, or noninvasive at-home solutions. There are real treatments that greatly reduce or completely eliminate urine leakage.
The hardest part is finding a treatment that is safe, effective and not painful. Our advice: do your research and weigh your options. Also, always consult your healthcare provider before trying something new.
Okay, we’re pretty sure you’ve heard this before, but do you know why sex isn’t the same after giving birth? Physically, your sex life will change post-childbirth for two reasons:
“Some of these vaginal changes result in a loss of collagen, when it loses its strength and structure. Some vaginal procedures can rebuild and renew this weakened collagen,” said Dr. Maria Canter, Urogynecologist of the Urogynecology Center Nova in Virginia.
Many women are opting for treatments to restore the tissue in their vaginal canal or for Kegel exercises to strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. It isn’t about aesthetic appeal, it’s about feeling and function and treating real medical conditions that diminish a women’s quality of life.
“My patients don’t come in to have their vaginas rejuvenated; they come in because they are having medical problems that need a solution,” Dr. Lauren Streicher, Medical Director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Health and Menopause in Chicago, told Coveteur.
(Check out our post to learn the in-depth reasons why your vagina changes over time or after childbirth.)
Perinatal mood disorders include postpartum depression, anxiety and OCD. While the most common is postpartum depression, a woman can experience any of these disorders.
What you need to know:
“I too struggled with postpartum depression after my first baby was born,” actress, Sarah Michelle Gellar, told People Magazine. “I got help, and made it through, and every day since has been the best gift I could ever have asked for. To those of you going through this, know that you’re not alone and that it really does get better.”
Learn more about postpartum mental health here.
Up until recently, a woman’s first checkup was at about 6-weeks post-partum depending on her birth. But the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists (ACOG) is changing postpartum care.
Instead of the standard “6-week check-up,” ACOG recommends a woman’s check-ups be comprehensive, timely and personalized.
Each woman’s pregnancy, labor and recovery are different, so shouldn’t each woman’s postpartum care be different? Also, we need more than one checkup after giving birth. And, ACOG agrees.
“Postpartum care should become an ongoing process, rather than a single encounter, with services and support tailored to each woman’s individual needs,” wrote ACOG in an official statement.
Each person processes a major life event differently. Sometimes it helps to talk about the experience, but for others this doesn’t help. Either is normal and okay.
You may be extremely jealous of a friend/family member’s birth story, or you’ll want to brag about yours. Or, you’ll want to snap at people who ask you about your birth story. This is your experience and your choice.
“I don’t like how people assume that anyone who’s ever had a baby is just dying to discuss childbirth…I don’t want to tell you mine. I actually feel quite protective over the details of my son’s entrance into the world. To me, it felt like a private event. Invite-only. I am not interested in giving you the recap.” –Aubrey Hirsch, blogger for The Toast.
Tying it all together
Our bodies go through a lot during pregnancy and postpartum. Our bodies that nourished and protected new lives need time to heal, recover and change.
It’s not about “bouncing back” to what you looked like before you had a baby, it’s about being the healthiest version of yourself right now. It’s about whatever you need to heal.
Life can become chaotic after a baby is born, between diaper changes and feedings your time is limited. But, don’t forget to take care of you.
Share this post to raise awareness of #PostpartumHealth.
For more women empowering tips, contact Dream Spa Medical.
Pregnancy is such an incredible and exciting event in life, but many women will admit that it can have some challenging moments, both physically and emotionally. For some, “pregnancy glow” can quickly become overshadowed by hormonal acne. Most women know that they will have to sacrifice some aspects of their life, but, often, do not know that it might include their skin. In fact, almost half of expecting women are affected by hormonal acne in the first trimester.
There is quite a bit of hormonally-driven change that takes place in those nine months and skin can respond with some unexpected issues, as well. “Acne during pregnancy can be mild, moderate, or even severe and it can occur at any time during the pregnancy. It may come and go or it may last the entire pregnancy,” says Andrea Cambio, a dermatologist in Cape Coral, Florida. The good news is, it is only temporary.
During pregnancy, hormone levels are elevated. Hormones called androgens become present and are then converted into estrogen and progesterone, which can cause the glands to produce an excess of sebum, causing congestion, inflammation, and breakouts. Individuals who were acne-prone as adolescents and those prone to breakouts during their menstrual periods have a greater likelihood to experience breakouts in the first and second trimester. Dehydration can also contribute to worsening complexion during pregnancy, so staying hydrated can be a simple, yet helpful, strategy in minimizing breakouts. Besides, drinking an adequate amount of water daily is beneficial for both the mind and body.
For those expecting, a monthly facial is highly beneficial. If one’s lifestyle does not call for a monthly commitment, then getting a facial every other month is an option. Skin care should be part of everyone’s wellness program, just like exercise and diet. Even though treatment options may be limited, a monthly facial should be used for that much needed personal time. This is especially important as a mom or expecting mom. In addition, facials promote relaxation and happiness and can be that feel-good needed for overall mental health. Facials should not be treated as a “splurge” item, but treated as deliberate self-care. But, of course, great skin is a pretty nice bonus! “While not everyone begins a skin care regimen for beauty reasons, the very act of looking out for skin, no matter the purpose, is comforting and soothing by nature,” says Rena Jogi, a dermatologist and affiliated physician with Memorial Hermann Memorial City Medical Center in Houston. “When you do a skin care routine, you’re usually alone in your bathroom or somewhere quiet and it’s just you and the mirror.” “There’s something slightly meditative about just sitting there and taking that 10 minutes just for you.” Seeing an aesthetician regularly can help keep clients on track with a homecare routine and help guide them through their pregnancy as skin care needs change. Pregnant clients should only use products that contain ingredients that are safe to use during pregnancy. If acne is not an issue during pregnancy, then products that target sensitive skin are typically a good option.
The following are some ingredients that are regarded as safe when treating acne during pregnancy.
The following ingredients should not be used in a skin care routine because of the risk they pose to the baby.
Caring for skin during pregnancy does not need to be difficult. In fact, it should not be difficult if the individual is already on an existing routine. Professionals should encourage pregnant clients to see them regularly, not only for a service, but for help in setting up and maintaining a healthy homecare routine. Product selections should be based on the client’s lifestyle and skin condition, which will most likely change in those nine months, so continue to monitor the homecare routine and adjust when needed. Here are some ways to setup healthy homecare habits for expecting clients. Keep the homecare routine simple and build a foundation if they do not have one. Start with the basics: a cleanser, toner, and moisturizer and, then, sunscreen for the daytime. These are the core products that everyone should be using and clients can build from there with corrective serums, masks, and exfoliants. Depending on the client, a morning and evening routine can be suggested. While the morning routine can be kept simple using the previously mentioned basics, the evening routine is a good place to incorporate an exfoliant and mask (only two to three times a week), avoiding any product that may be too abrasive or cause irritation to the skin.
Some additional tips that may help include:
Understanding the causes of pregnancy acne, as well as best practices for treating it, such as ingredients to look for and to avoid, will help professionals in reducing their clients’ skin-related worries during this exciting and, sometimes, stressful time in their lives.
To find out more skin care tips, contact Dream Spa Medical.